“Part of being motivated is being afraid of the right things.” Motivation is often portrayed as a purely positive force – a burst of inspiration, a dream of success, or the desire to become your best self. But beneath the surface, another powerful driver lurks … fear. Not the kind that paralyzes us, but the […]

Words are invisible forces that carry a visible power. With a single sentence, we can ignite hope or extinguish it. With a few thoughtless words, we can build walls. We can break hearts. We can destroy relationships. With kind words, especially at just the right time, we can change someone’s life – or even our […]

….in Need of Care “I am not broken, I am in need of care.” Struggles are often misinterpreted as signs of weakness, failure, or being “broken.” The truth is, to hurt is human. Feeling deeply, stumbling, needing support – none of these make us defective. They make us alive. The statement, “I am not broken, […]

Being Safe and Seen at the Same Time We often think of vulnerability as revealing pain, fear, or uncertainty. These can be parts of it, but vulnerability is much broader. It’s about showing up as your whole self, without armor. It’s telling the truth about what you feel, need, or hope for – even when […]

Do you ever catch yourself saying things like “I should be more productive,” “I should have gone to the store today,” or “I shouldn’t feel this way?” If so, you’re not alone. The word “should” seems innocent, maybe even helpful at times; but, in reality, it’s often a subtle (or not so subtle) form of […]

5 Tips to Help All relationships can be complex; marriage may take the lead in the complexity.  Two humans with an evolving partnership that thrives on mutual respect, shared goals, and effective communication. One foundational aspect of any marriage is understanding the roles each partner assumes – both in and outside the home. These roles […]

Life doesn’t always go as planned. A job falls through. A relationship ends. A dream detours. When challenges hit, your first instinct may be to ask, “Why is this happening to me?”  What if the better question is “How is this happening for me?” This simple change in perspective can transform how you navigate life’s ups and […]

…Together I often write about the premise behind what I do – focusing on overall well-being through 5 fields of health (emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual). I don’t often talk about the services I offer to help through these fields or where I do most of this work. First, where.  Any services I offer […]

Self-talk, the internal dialogue you have with yourself, is a constant stream of thoughts, beliefs, and judgments; and often reflects your attitudes and values. It’s the silent voice in your head that helps you interpret the world around you and can influence your emotions, behaviors, and overall well-being. This inner chatter is natural, it’s human. […]

5 Key Strategies (with one main concept) I was working out the other day and the online trainer said, “keep pushing – those who win aren’t afraid of losing.”  Reread that “those who win aren’t afraid of losing!”  Pretty neat statement.  With every win, there is bound to be a loss at some point.  If […]